Wrightslaw  l  Wrightslaw Way Blog  l  IDEA 2004  l  Store  l  Yellow Pages for Kids

 Home > Ask the Advocate > Am I Being Selfish in Asking for Services for my Child by Pat Howey

The Special Ed Advocate newsletter
It's Unique ... and Free!

Enter your email address below:

2018 -2019 Training Programs

Sold Out! Oct 18 - Dallas, TX

Oct 25 - College Park, MD

Nov 8 - New Orleans, LA

Jan 25 - Long Island, NY

Feb 7 - Houston, TX

Feb 21 - Macon, GA

Full Schedule

Be a Hero ...

 Jason at Ft. Benning
... to a Hero
Learn more


Topics from A-Z
Free Newsletter
Seminars & Training
Yellow Pages for Kids
Press Room

Books & Training

Wrightslaw Storesecure store lock
  Advocate's Store
  Student Bookstore
  Exam Copies
Training Center
Bulk Discounts
New! Military Discounts
Mail & Fax Orders

Advocacy Library

Cool Tools
Doing Your Homework
Ask the Advocate
Newsletter Archives
Short Course Series
Success Stories

Law Library

IDEA 2004
No Child Left Behind
McKinney-Vento Homeless
Section 504
Fed Court Complaints


American Indian
Assistive Technology
Autism Spectrum
Behavior & Discipline
College/Continuing Ed
Due Process
Early Intervention (Part C)
Episodic, such as
   Allergies, Asthma, etc

Future Planning
High-Stakes Tests
Homeless Children
IDEA 2004
Identification & Child Find
Juvenile Justice
Law School & Clinics
Letters & Paper Trails
Military / DOD
Parental Protections
PE and Adapted PE
Privacy & Records
Procedural Safeguards
Progress Monitoring
Related Services
Research Based Instruction
Response to Intervention (RTI)
School Report Cards
Section 504
Teachers & Principals
Twice Exceptional (2e)
VA Special Education

Resources & Directories

Advocate's Bookstore
Advocacy Resources
  Disability Groups
  State DOEs
  State PTIs
Free Flyers
Free Pubs
Free Newsletters
Legal & Advocacy
   Legal Terms
   Assessment Terms
Best School Websites


Am I Being Selfish for Asking for Services for my Child?
by Pat Howey, Advocate

Print this page

The individual advocacy, case by case, parent by parent approach does work, although it is a slow process. Parents must remember that when they achieve a new benefit, program, or related service for their own child, the "system" often justifies its actions by finding other children who can also benefit from what it is being required to provide for your child. If your child needs a particular service, device, or assistance, he or she is likely not the only child in need. I call this the “domino effect”. Schools call it “opening the floodgates”.

In 1987, when we requested a due process hearing for our child, a key issue was whether she needed a laptop computer. (This was way before the words, “assistive technology” were in the laws). In settlement negotiations during the hearing, the school agreed to provide the computer. However, moral of this story is that the school did not purchase just one computer; it purchased three. Two other children ultimately benefited from what were able to obtain for our child. Many other children have since received laptop computers to assist them in their education.

A second key issue was whether my child required Adaptive Physical Education (APE). At the time of the hearing in 1987, no APE was provided to any child in the entire county. The hearing officer ruled that my child did require adaptive physical education and by the next school year, the school had hired a physical education teacher with a masters degree in adaptive physical education. Since 1988, APE has been provided to hundreds of children within the county.

A third key issue was whether my child required direct Physical Therapy (PT) and Occupational Therapy (OT). At the time of the hearing, the school contracted with a physical and occupational therapist for six hours each per week. My child was the only child in the entire county who was receiving direct physical and occupational therapy. Those who had physical or occupational therapy listed on their Individual education plans were served by a "consultation" model. A “gross motor aide” who was paid minimum wage and who was required to have at least a General Equivalency (GED) or High School diploma provided “exercises”. The hearing officer ruled that my child required direct services. As a result, since 1988, hundreds of children in the county have received services from full time and part time, OT’s. PT’s, Physical Therapy Assistants (PTA) and Certified Occupational Therapy Assistants (COTA). The school has at least two full time physical and occupational therapists on staff throughout the entire year. Many, many children now receive PT and OT direct services. Some continue to receive "exercises" from a gross motor aide, but those parents most likely do not know what their children are receiving.

In the fall of 2000, approximately thirteen years following our hearing, I happened to meet a retired teacher who remembered our hearing. She actually thanked me, stating as a direct result of our hearing she was able to obtain services for her kids that she had never before been able to obtain.

Our hearing was well publicized. It was open to the public with television cameras and radio reporters in attendance. We invited parents to attend, so that they would be able to see what an actual hearing was all about. After our hearing, six other parents requested hearings. Some were settled. Others went to hearing. Many other parents filed successful state and OCR complaints. Two superintendents eventually retired or resigned, we elected at least four new school board members, and the director of sped chose early retirement.

I am in no way advocating that all parents take public stances with their school disputes. That is an individual decision that each parent must make based on the issues and facts that relate to their own case. In 1987, my child was in the second grade. None of her friends read the paper or watched the news. The publicity had little impact on her. Had she been older, our decision to be so public in our dispute with the school would likely have been different to protect her privacy. However, for those who have strong family support and courage to publicize their sped issues, your bravado can provide quite a learning experience for other parents of children with special needs. You will make some enemies. You will make some new friends. You will learn quite clearly who your true friends are.

Individual advocacy does make a systemic impact. Sometimes the impact will be greater than you ever would believe. It is, however, a slow, slow process. It is one that has taught me more about patience than any other experience in my life. That’s why I continue to go through life “Changing the World – One Child at a Time”.

Pat Howey
January 1, 2005

Meet Pat Howey

Pat Howey is an Indiana advocate who has helped parents obtain quality special education services for their children with disabilities since 1986. She also helps parents resolve special education disputes with their school districts. (If Pat cannot assist you, she will refer you to attorneys for legal advice and assistance.)

Pat is active in several advocacy organizations including The Council of Parent Attorneys and Advocates. She is the author of many articles, including:

Understanding the Playing Field: Power Struggles, Meetings, Follow Up Letters
Advocacy Strategies: Filing a Complaint with the State

As a member of the Wrightslaw Speakers Bureau, Pat provides special education legal and advocacy training for parents, educators, and others who want to ensure that children receive quality special education services. These programs are designed to meet the needs of parents, educators, health care providers, advocates, and attorneys who represent children with disabilities. Learn more.

"Changing the World -- One Child at at Time."

Contact Information
Pat Howey
Special Education Consulting
POB 117
West Point, Indiana 47992-0117
Website: patriciahowey.com
Email: phowey@att.net

Copyright © 2005 Pat Howey

Email Newsletter icon, E-mail Newsletter icon, Email List icon, E-mail List icon The Special Ed Advocate: It's Free!


Wrightslaw: Special Education Legal Developments and Cases 2017, by Pam and Pete Wright
About the Book

Wrightslaw: Special Education Law, 2nd Edition, by Pam and Pete Wright
About the Book

Wrightslaw: All About IEPs
About the Book

Wrightslaw: All About Tests and Assessments
About the Book

Surviving Due Process: Stephen Jeffers v. School Board
About the DVD Video


Copyright © 1998-2018, Peter W. D. Wright and Pamela Darr Wright. All rights reserved.

Contact Us | Press Mission l Our Awards l Privacy Policy l Disclaimer l Site Map

Free Shipping on Orders over $35

The Advocates Store

Get Help!

Wrightslaw on FacebookWrightslaw on TwitterWrightslaw YouTube Channel 

Wrightslaw Books
Wrightslaw: Special Education Law, 2nd Edition, by Pam and Pete Wright

About the Book

Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy, 2nd Edition
About the Book

Wrightslaw: All About IEPs
About the Book

Wrightslaw: All About Tests and Assessments
About the Book

Surviving Due Process: Stephen Jeffers v. School Board
About the DVD Video

Student Discounts

Military Discounts

The Advocate's Store

Wrightslaw Multimedia Training

Understanding Your Child's
Test Scores (1.5 hrs)

Wrightslaw Special: $14.95

Wrightslaw Mutimedia Training Download

Special Education Law & Advocacy Training
(6.5 hrs)

Wrightslaw Special: $49.95